Reflection - Coming Home

The process JJ and Melissa offer is simply ONE way I can learn to come back home to myself and feel centered.  I will go as I feel guided and use whatever process(s) that make me feel good inside.Most importantly, I notice that I have already started!  

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The three part process is called Reflect | Remember | Refocus:

REFLECT:  This is the first step of the centering process, when I realize that I’ve been triggered and now have a feeling inside that I don’t want or like.  I will reflect on that trigger, how it made me feel, and what I was thinking about that made me feel bad. I will observe and not judge myself for any conclusion I come to.  I can give myself more time (actually as much time as I need) to have the knee jerk reaction, and then let the emotion die down just a bit before I move on to the next step.  

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What’s a common trigger and resulting feeling that I’d like to address and reflect on now?

REMEMBER: This is the second step of the centering process, when I remember that my body is a wonderful partner and will inform me about my feelings before my brain does. Without even working at it, my body will cue my feelings easily. As a matter of fact, I realize it always has, and I’m grateful for that as I now have more awareness. Let’s explore some of my body cues:  

Where do I feel anger in my body? What does it feel like?

Where do I feel anxiety? What does it feel like?

Where does my body inform me that I am sad?

Where do I feel joy or elation?

Where does my body feel and store sadness or loss?

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(I may also remember to ask my body to release any of the pent up emotions it has been storing if I feel guided to do so now. I thank my body for it’s service and support, and offer that it is no longer necessary to hold on to those negative energies. If I don’t feel guided just now – that’s fine, I can check back anytime and for now keep moving forward to part three.)

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REFOCUS: This third step is the conclusion of the Coming Home process.  I will ask myself if this specific trigger, ensuing feeling and internal process serves me any longer?  I will refocus on my feeling in a different way, seeing what it really represented for me, and I will love myself for the messages that I receive.  I will honor those feelings as they are real and my feelings are never ever wrong.  And I will forgive myself for all of the times I wasn’t able to have the clarity and awareness that I have now, as I know I am always growing and changing into my best self. In this short course, I’ve learned so much about myself!  I am grateful for recognizing that I love to feel good and want to feel good as much as possible!

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